i definitely think the way its campaigned for and the intense focus on it has a lot done wrong, but i’m fucking sick of people going on and on about how wanting marriage rights is bourgeois, especially since almost everyone i’ve heard talk about it like that is speaking from a really well-off perspective and either white knighting or pretending it makes them ~radical~.
seriously rich people don’t need marriage. it’s the people who can’t fucking afford medical care and aren’t covered by their partner’s plan who need it, people who die alone in hospitals because their partner isn’t considered their partner, people who don’t have the money or access to get their legal gender changed and need the benefits of marriage, people who for whom marriage tax breaks mean the difference between having a home or not, people who need legal rights over their own children, people trying immigrate to be with their partner who don’t have the money to hire a lawyer or get a job that will allow them to do so. tell me why these people shouldn’t fucking get the same rights that straight people do, just to make a fucking point about how screwed up marriage is.
i’m sick of people throwing anyone who just wants the fucking financial, social, and medical benefits of marriage under the bus because of their ~radical~ ideals. yeah, there’s a lot fucked up about it, but guess what we still live in that world and some of us don’t have the privilege of being able to put ideals before our material needs. a “radical” movement that prioritizes ideals before the immediate reality of what our lives are like is some shit i don’t want.
yes this, and furthermore, if you are a cis straight person making or cosigning arguments against same-sex marriage, you are being homophobic, period, i don’t care how radical your justifications are.